How can I help?
Have you ever asked that?
Sure you have!
Did you mean it?
Of course you did!
Was your friend able to answer?
She just said, “I’ll let you know.” or “We’re fine.”
Can I let you in on a little secret?
She isn’t fine.
She’s not going to let you know.
It’s not that she doesn’t want you to help. She just doesn’t know what she needs. She’s overwhelmed with her circumstances. The decisions and possibilities are swirling in her mind. Her need to keep her family as “normal” as possible is so strong she can’t imagine asking someone else to step in to do something that is hers.
That’s where the BFF steps in.
The BFF – that means the Best Friend Forever.
In a crisis, it means “the lifeline.”
It means “the doer.”
It means “the organizer.”
It means “I love you so much.”
It means that you, the BFF, answer that question for her by just doing it.
Not waiting to be asked.
Not taking no for an answer.
Not asking for anything in return.
We hope that this site will help you, the BFF, answer the question, “How can I help?” by giving you resources and lists to practically help while at the same time providing support for you in your new role.